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Commitment phobia is something I see in my office often and happens to both women and men. This is often not conscious and going on at the deepest level of the sub consciousness.
You can spot a commitment-phobe a mile away only if you know what you are looking for.
There are two types of people: Those who love to date, and those who prefer to keep their options open.
The former loves the feeling of togetherness and can't wait to walk down the aisle, buy an expensive cake and treat 200 people to dinner in order to cement their love.
Commitment phobia is a very painful experience both for the one who engages in the pattern and for those who are involved with that person.
Usually the art of pushing and pulling and seduction are the domain of the commitment “phobe.” The answer dwells deeply in the family of origin survival patterns. People who are commitment phobic feel they need to cut off their feelings after a certain point of knowing someone as a means of feeling in control and feeling emotionally protected.
These commitment issues were not only exclusive to my love life, but also my professional life.
I am now at a stage in my life where I can be very committed, but I wasn't this way just a year or two ago. I was a commitment-phobe who dated a lot of women with no intention of ever settling down.Firstly, she says that people with these traits tend to be afraid of being hurt because of their experience of past relationships so this is a great place to start.If they’ve been in a previous relationship that ended badly or their parents separated venomously they might be less likely commit out of fear.Basically, they are looking for perfection; which is what they erroneously feel would make them happy, in control and ultimately emotionally safe.When they find someone that they feel would measure up the push/pull journeys begin. You know what I am talking about: The person is fully present and ensconced in compliments and sweet nothings, and then they don’t call for four days. When the commitment-phobic person is there, they are thinking at the back of their mind about their backdoor way out at all times.
They assume every girl they date will inevitably fall in love and want to marry them.